Most parents have had to deal with challenging behaviour at one time or another  here are a few tips on delaing with disprespectful behaviour 

• Stay calm: - It’s not easy to keep cool when our kids are being rude. Meeting them with disrespect sends the wrong message.  Take a few minutes , take a deep breath and try counting to 10 or tell yourself “this is not an emergency”
• Try to understand the behaviour  Look at things from your child’s perspective , were they caught off guard?  Do they feel powerless?  Their response  could be  a reflection of how they feel and cant put it into words effectively. Its  a gut reaction.
• Empathize: Help your child understand their own feelings by offering an empathetic response, “It seems unfair that we have to go already!” or “I know it’s hard to leave when you’re having such a fun time!” You do not have to agree with the feeling, it simply means that you are trying to relate to their experience.
• Check the Time: Some kids are affected by low blood sugar, hunger or thirst. Others are very sensitive to environmental stimulation or not getting enough sleep. Has it been awhile since your child ate? Could they use a sip of water? Or a break from a loud environment?  Offer it in a non-threatening way, “I’m going to have a snack.  would you like one too?”
• Slow It Down: It’s easy to get pulled away with the “runaway train” of angry, frustrated words and emotions. Instead of jumping on board and responding to every criticism or complaint your child throws at you, try to put on the brakes, “
• Let it Go: Sometimes it’s best not to give a response, especially if you know your child is hungry or tired and talking out of a “survival mode” brain – or if you can’t keep yourself from responding in a sarcastic, angry or disrespectful way. You don’t have to ignore it forever. Once everyone is calm, you can talk about what happened and how to do it differently next time.
 
DO THE TEACHING LATER
Waiting or delaying your response does not mean that you are a passive parent or you’re saying that disrespect is OK. It means that you are waiting until your brain, and your child’s brain, is able to receive information and move on without being rude, angry or disrespectful.

• When you’re ready to talk, you can start with, “It seems like you were upset about leaving the playdate earlier. Can we think of another way to explain to me how you feel?”
• You have feelings too! It’s ok to express them, and let you child know how their words affect you. Be careful not to point the finger back at your child, keep the focus on how it felt to you. “I felt hurt when you said I was the meanest mum ever.”
• If you’ve  responded with angry words in the heat of the moment, its ok to admit it. Children need to know mums (or dads for that matter) are not perfect . We all make mistakes, and   this is when  the children  learn  information, when they are calm and  can process what you are teaching them and  they will learn to manage their feelings more respectfully in the future

Did you know that some of our staff babysit in their spare time?  usually in the evenings.  But please note  this is not a service provided my Funzone but a private arrangement  between parents and indivisual staff members.  /staff will not offer their services when Funzone is open . you can rest assured  using our staff as they are all police checked and familiar to the children. Ask staff if it is something you would like to know more about.
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